Have you ever been on social media, fallen down the rabbit hole of other peoples lives and then BAM!!! You look at your life and compare the shit out of it?! Yeah, me too. I think we’ve all been there…done that and then came back to do it again. And guess what…it’s ok, we’re HUMAN!
And as humans do, we constantly try to mask ourselves. We filter ourselves. Wether it’s on social media, text messages or in real life situations. We only ever want others to see us at our “Best” because we’re so afraid of being judged or not measuring up. We set the bar so high for ourselves that when we fall short we see ourselves as not being as good as anyone else.
You constantly compare yourself to “Susie”.
Susie is in amazing shape, You’re struggling with your own reflection. She’s always smiling, You can barely find the strength so grin. Her kids are always so put together, You’re not even sure if yours have on matching socks. Her husband is always happy and present, Yours is nose deep in work. But Susie only posts about the positives and the good parts of her life. No one knows she’s micromanaging her eating, You just ate a bowl of your favorite cereal again. Susie is working out daily to try to defeat her own body dysmorphia, You have good and bad days with your own body. Susie is criticizing her husband for not doing enough, Your Husband spends time every evening with the family. Susie limits her kids play time or activities so they don’t look “messy”. Instilling her own fears and insecurities into her family. You let your kids be kids, run around, go to practices and let them exert their energy. Allowing them to use their own judgment (within reason).
Almost no one wants to post those moments. A raw, unfiltered moment that shows how “flawed” we are. But we are, we ALL are. It’s ok to not be ok! Accept it, deal with it and then kick it to the curb! Fear, anxiety, anger or any negative feeling is a great emotion to work through, it helps the happy times feel more sweet, the good moments are appreciated a little longer. It also helps you want to maintain a positive balance in your heart and mind. That’s a win for anyone and everyone.
I’m speaking from the heart. I’m just as guilty as anyone else. Sometimes the only thing I can do is just BREATHE. I tell myself “This is temporary, this will pass”. Reminding yourself what you’ve already pushed through, that you can do it again, that there are better things ahead will almost always help you through.
So remember…it’s ok to not be ok, just don’t stay there.
xo
